The kids' guide to working out conflicts how to keep cool, stay safe, and get along
Describes common forms of conflict, the reasons behind conflicts, and various positive ways to deal with and defuse tough situations at school, at home, and in the community without getting physical.
| Main Author: | Drew, Naomi. |
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| Format: | Books Print Book |
| Language: | English |
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Minneapolis, MN :
Free Spirit Pub.,
2004.
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Table of Contents:
- Open Your Mind
- What Starts a Conflict? What Makes It Grow?
- Conflict Triggers
- Willingness Lets You Put the Brakes on Conflict
- What Happens When You're NOT Willing to Work Out Conflicts?
- What Are Your Willingness Blocks?
- What Happens When You ARE Willing to Work Out Conflicts?
- Basement or Balcony
- Your Choice
- Decide to Become a Conflict Solver
- What Conflict Makers Do
- What Conflict Solvers Do
- Where Do You Stand?
- When the Other Person Isn't Willing
- Fake It Till You Make It
- Team Earth Needs Your Help
- "Yes, But" Questions
- What to Do When Your Friends Have Conflicts
- Are You Ready to Be a Conflict Solver?
- Become a Better Listener
- NOT Listening Fuels Conflicts
- Listening Is Your Path to Personal Power
- Check Out Your Listening
- Try the Bad Listening/Good Listening Game
- Listen So You Really Understand: Reflective Listening
- Play the "Sounds Like ..." Game
- Using Reflective Listening When There's a Conflict: Two Examples
- Good Listening Builds Good Relationships
- Use Win/Win Guidelines
- Cool off
- Talk the problem over using I-messages
- Listen while the other person speaks, and say back what you heard
- Take responsibility for your part in the conflict
- Brainstorm solutions and choose one that's fair to both of you
- Affirm, forgive, thank, or apologize to each other
- "Yes, But" Questions
- Be a Role Model
- Manage Your Anger and Gain Control
- What Are Your Anger Pitfalls?
- Why Do So Many People Have Trouble Managing Anger?
- Three Secrets to Getting a Handle on Anger
- Decide Not to Get Hooked
- Make Yourself Zinger-Proof
- Protect Yourself from Other People's Angry Vibes
- When Anger Leads to Physical Fighting
- Take Control
- Learn to Manage Stress and Stay Calm, Cool, and Confident
- Do You Know Your Stress Signals?
- What's on Your Mind? Find the Calm Confidence Within You
- More Ways to Stay Calm and Cool
- De-Stress with Yoga and Meditation
- Choose Calmness
- Be Smart About Bullying
- Teasing versus Bullying: What's the Difference?
- Eight Ways to Stop Teasing
- Why Do People Bully? Is It Really Such a Big Problem?
- Self-Check: Are You Bullying or Harassing Anyone?
- What to Do If You've Bullied Others
- What to Do If Someone Is Bullying You
- "Yes, But" Questions
- Bullying and Sexual Harassment
- Choose to Be a Peacemaker
- Build Yourself Up from the Inside Out
- Follow a Day-by-Day Plan
- Strengthen Your Courage Muscle
- Strengthen Your Forgiveness Muscle
- Observe Yourself
- Observe Others
- Believe in Yourself
- My Conflict Triggers.