Twenty things adopted kids wish their adoptive parents knew
Lists the fears, concerns, doubts, and questions of adopted children, and explains how adoptive parents can ease their children's minds and understand their feelings.
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New York, N.Y. :
Dell Pub.,
©1999.
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Table of Contents:
- Adoption Through the Eyes of a Child
- Hidden Losses
- Entering Your Child's World
- Twenty Things Your Adopted Child Wants You to Know
- "I Suffered a Profound Loss Before I Was Adopted. You Are Not Responsible."
- "I Need to Be Taught That I Have Special Needs Arising From Adoption Loss, of Which I Need Not Be Ashamed."
- "If I Don't Grieve My Loss, My Ability to Receive Love From You and Others Will Be Hindered."
- "My Unresolved Grief May Surface in Anger Toward You."
- "I Need Your Help in Grieving My Loss. Teach Me How to Get in Touch With My Feelings About My Adoption and Then Validate Them."
- "Just Because I Don't Talk About My Birth Family Doesn't Mean I Don't Think About Them."
- "I Want You to Take the Initiative in Opening Conversations About My Birth Family."
- "I Need to Know the Truth About My Conception, Birth, and Family History, No Matter How Painful the Details May Be."
- "I Am Afraid I Was 'Given Away' by My Birth Mother Because I Was a Bad Baby. I Need You to Help Me Dump My Toxic Shame."
- "I Am Afraid You Will Abandon Me."
- "I May Appear More 'Whole' Than I Actually Am. I Need Your Help to Uncover the Parts of Myself That I Keep Hidden So I Can Integrate All the Elements of My Identity."
- "I Need to Gain a Sense of Personal Power."
- "Please Don't Say I Look or Act Just Like You. I Need You to Acknowledge and Celebrate Our Differences."
- "Let Me Be My Own Person ... But Don't Let Me Cut Myself Off From You."
- "Please Respect My Privacy Regarding My Adoption. Don't Tell Other People Without My Consent."
