Four seconds all the time you need to stop counter-productive habits and get the results you want
"All too often our best efforts to accomplish the things we want most--to do our jobs well, to make meaningful contributions at home and at work, to have satisfying relationships with loved ones, friends, neighbors, and coworkers--are built on bad habits that sabotage us. We feel overwhelmed by...
| Main Author: | Bregman, Peter. |
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| Format: | Books Print Book |
| Language: | English |
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New York, New York :
HarperOne,
[2015]
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| Edition: | First edition. |
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Table of Contents:
- pt. 1. change your mental defaults
- Four seconds : Pause, breathe, course correct
- Why the pinto blew up : Rethink goal setting
- Byron's real problem : Commit to following through
- My first TEDx talk : Ditch the urge to be perfect
- It finally felt like mine : Trust yourself first
- Nothing helped my tennis elbow : Stand back and do nothing
- Everything is amazing and no one is happy : Accept reality. Change expectations.
- The value of drinking tea : Make time for rituals
- Before slipping the kayak into the water : Prepare every day
- A lesson from my wireless router : Reset yourself
- This is what it feels like to ... : Stop performing. Start experiencing.
- "I have no time to think" : Invest in unfocused focus
- Why I returned my iPad : Embrace boredom
- Dorit's first-grade classroom : Ignore the inner critic
- Carlos's double whammy : Reclaim your sweet spot
- House rock rapid : Imagine the worst
- Turn the boat toward the wind : Be prepared with a process, not a solution
- pt. 2. Strengthen your relationships
- A lesson from my mother-in-law : Prioritize relationships
- The hardest part is after the speech : Show people who you truly are
- He broke up with her in a text : Don't let the package distract you from the message
- I want to be like you when I'm seventy-seven : Choose to be inspired by people
- A lesson from my mother : Refuse to write someone off
- The inescapable parking ticket : Walk away from an argument
- Don't blame the dog : Take the blame instead
- Hardware stores don't sell milk : Learn other people's rules of engagement
- Sophia's first powder day : Meet people where they are
- It was a long shot : Become a great receiver
- A false start gets you disqualified : Empathize first. Help them feel better later.
- It's not about the shampoo : Listen for the unspoken
- My best birthday ever : Give the gift of appreciation
- Getting a free upgrade to first class : Appeal to people's generosity
- Why Tim didn't get the promotion : Don't skip your thank-yous
- No : Establish boundaries with others
- Towing our neighbor's son's car : Ask questions. Don't attack back.
- pt. 3. Optimize your work habits
- Hair salon leadership : Keep your cool
- George Washington vs. Super Bowl I : See individuals individually
- Complaining with complainers : Neutralize negativity
- The training wheels had to come off : Let people fail
- or almost fail
- Are you ready to be a leader? : Support others' success
- Who deserves credit for a great movie? : Share the glory
- The chef who didn't get it : Take responsibility for your colleagues' work
- I've got too much to do ... : Offer to do other people's work
- The day the distribution centers were full : Focus on outcome, not process
- Don't bet on winning the lottery : Zero in on what matters to the organization
- Ron drones on and on : Be helpful instead of nice
- "Actually, there is something ..." : Accept the gift of criticism
- Crying about a gift : Create a safe space for yourself and others
- I don't miss a thing : Stop checking e-mail
- The no-PowerPoint rule : Embrace the informal meeting
- The pea haters who ate like pea lovers : Tell stories to get others to change
- How Jori lost eighty pounds : Forget willpower, restructure your environment.