Stepparenting 50 one-minute dos and don'ts for stepdads and stepmoms
Step parenting involves special parenting challenges and skills. This book eliminates the fluff and gives you just the nuggets in 50 one-and-two page "chapters," each with an accompanying photograph, concisely addressing a particular issue. This is practical advice that both the stepparent and exist...
Saved in:
| Main Author: | |
|---|---|
| Format: | Books Print Book |
| Language: | English |
| Published: |
San Diego, California :
WordSlinger Press,
2016.
|
| Subjects: | |
| Tags: |
No Tags, Be the first to tag this record!
|
Table of Contents:
- Do show love and respect for your spouse
- Don't use chores as punishment
- Don't yell
- Do choose activities that bond you as a family
- Don't hide every parental disagreement
- Don't buy love
- Do give time
- Don't point out your own attributes
- Don't try to be the cool parent
- Do be fair and consistent in discipline
- Don't spank
- Don't wait until marriage to start taking on a role
- Do go slow
- Do let your spouse and his or her child have their own private time
- Do create new family activities and traditions
- Do get ready for "you are not my dad/mom"
- Don't expect an immediate blended family
- Don't be jealous when the child talks about the out-of-house parent
- Don't let your stepchild's rudeness go unnoticed
- Do find time to focus on your spouse
- Do accept your stepchild for who they are
- Do take care of yourself
- Do find "little" activities to do together
- Do build a family website or Facebook page
- Don't get sucked into taking sides between children
- Do consider stepparent adoption
- Do give easy opportunities to talk
- Do be flexible in what your stepchild calls you
- Do recognize adult stepchildren have emotions too
- Do consider attending worship together
- Don't get upset on mother's/father's day
- Don't push gender-specific roles on your spouse
- Do be prepared to pay for the failures of the out-of-house parent
- Do help your stepchild feel good about himself/herself
- Don't feel you need to solve every problem
- Don't be afraid to refer to your stepchild as "my son" or "my daughter"
- Do be prepared for the sex with your spouse to change
- Don't brush aside your child's grief
- Do be prepared for a child's rejection
- Do be prepared for your stepchild to badmouth you to the out-of-house parent
- Don't defend yourself against every negative comment from the out-of-house parent
- Do help your stepchild buy gifts for the out-of-house parent
- Do understand the reason for a child's anger and rudeness
- Don't "pass the buck" to the stepparent
- Don't let your guilt over a failed marriage make you spoil your child
- Don't control your kids. Guide them
- Do recognize your stepchild may show love in different ways
- Do use the fewest words possible
- Don't criticize a child for bad behavior, criticize the behavior itself
- Do respect a stepchild's need for privacy and decorum
- Don't feel every holiday must be spent together
- From the author.
